When people think of abuse, they assume it is physical when in reality abuse comes in many obvious and non obvious ways. We all are familiar with the obvious forms of abuse but most are unfamiliar with a tactical form such as GASLIGHTING!
Unfortunately, for me I have had the unpleasurable experience of this form of abuse for over 8 years until I mustered up the strength to say enough is enough and leave the toxic hell I subjected myself too for way too long!
To help someone else out there I came across this list and figured I’d share it. This list I found on yahoo was such a accurate description of what I went through and I wanted to share to help someone else out there recognize the signs. Please and I quote this is a list I came upon it is not mine! And remember if you or anyone you know is suffering some form of abuse get out safely and if you can’t locate a domestic abuse line and or your closest police authorities!



Remember you are not alone, get out and get help! Regain your control and sanity and put abusers where they belong!
Excellent post, I must say I really enjoyed reading this. Keep up the content π
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Why Thank you very much! There will be more of this content in the near future as I plan to focus half on poetry and the other on speaking on the behalf of narcissistic abuse and cyberstalking both which I have the misfortune to experience in a lifetime and want to help others out there like me! Thanks for the positive feedback π much appreciated!!!
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So sorry to hear about Harley! Romeo and Juliet are doing well as am I! Would love to have an update, My Dear??? πππΉ
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Deal! And so glad to hear!! Such great names too, bet they are keeping you super busy! ππ
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Can’t wait!! ππ Romeo is a kisser so that was a no brainer and once you have a Romeo you need a Juliet! Ha! Busy? You have no idea! Juliet is a cross between King Charles Cavalier Spaniel and a Bechon Frise and she is frisky – We learned a new dog behavior called “Zooming” – where for no visible reason they start running circles around the coffee table and down the hall and back, jump on the sofa and down and then back up and then back down the hall and back for about 3-4 minutes and then lay down. Weird but a riot to watch!! Looking forward to reconnecting, My Dear!!
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Wow sounds like a wild time but full of love and excitement and joy! I have a client whom has a German Sheppard and I watch when she has ran lamps from room to room and stood there in amazement that nothing broke or fell over or that she got hurt in the process ..its wild! It’s funny he has been a client for at least a year now and I am so in love with the dog! And the feeling is mutual I get kisses the whole time I am there!
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Gas lighting is a sorry persons game! Shameful and I am so proud of you for leaving.
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It was a hell like no other that’s for sure! I have been through cyberstalking and then narcissistic abuse with the obvious trait of gaslighting…
Both are very weak individuals, games like these are not played by confident and good people it’s done by pathological and unstable individuals..and thank you beautiful, leaving was the best thing I did wish I would not have wasted so many years in the process …I knew what was happening a little to late but once I talked to people who had the expertise and the name to what was happening to me I didn’t hesitate much longer..these things never change and it’s a horrible thing to go through ..
I was worried for my kids esp..
And for me was worried I’d die not living to my fullest potential and scared to die with regret π
Thank you for the love β€οΈ
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I can’t tell you how thrilled and happy I am that You escaped and have a better life away from what you had to endure for too long – no never should have had to go through what you did and your commitment to give back and to try and help others get out or not get into the same situation.
You are a Sweet, Sweet Angel, Dear Nikki!!
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Chuck aww thank you! β€οΈ yes I have many desires in the future to help others and for now help others here! π WE GROW THROUGH WHAT WE GO THROUGH! Hope your well dear friend! BTW harley passed away, it’s been a sad few weeks π’ hope your puppies are healthy and keeping you happy π
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I hate that you went through that!π₯Ή
There are so many pathetic losers out here and looking to try to ruin someoneβs confidence and life. I applaud you for putting your kids safety first and protecting them. Many women donβt do that. So you are my hero β₯οΈβ₯οΈβ₯οΈ
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Aww thank you beautiful π my confidence, self worth and strong will and mind is what got me through! And even more so my kids! We all get what’s coming in the end, what we do to people comes back!
For now I shed light for others and hope I save someone in the end!
Thank you for the kindness love β€οΈ π
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Good work girlie!!!! Inspiring
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β₯οΈπ Thank you darling
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Couldn’t agree more with you.
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right!
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Would love for you to give my blog a read as well. I think some of the content might be helpful π best of luck, Iβll keep reading your posts!
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Ditto π I look forward to it!
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It’s a pretty damning list – happy new year to you Nikki! I hope you’re well π
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Happy New Year π yes it is a damning list and the people who gaslighting, stalk, or abuse are very insecure people so they use what they think is power to inflict it on the strong and secure!
I have learned alot in life about people amd character and that titles mean nothing when your a ugly person inside!
Anyway I have a lot of strong will and I will never let anyone take away any more time for me, because the 8 years of hell I endured where years lost of my life I won’t get back! However it made resilent and I am arching my way up the ladder to success π
I hope your well and life is good and Simon I hope you have the best 2023 life has to offer π
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Thank you Nikki – I hope you have the best 2023 as well, keep going and pushing forward and I hope to see you around π
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Thank you π yes I don’t look back. However, I reflect on the WHY in my life and what I am doing it all for! Someday, my past may manifest into a book or public speaking the goal will be my words saving someone from ever going through what I have! βΊοΈπ
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