To all you beautiful men AND women out there ❤ Do me a favor 😉 if your lucky enough to have a Amazing significant other cherish and adore and love them! Because when you lie or cheat or treat someone badly even if they love you THEY WILL LEAVE! The heart breaks but it heals! And then they find someone WHO WILL TREAT THEM LOVINGLY and you will never admit it out loud but you hurt!! Those whom read this and act smug its insecurities and truth…tonight to anyone who had to leave a bad relationship and it was hard to do…congrats 👏 you love yourself and your self worth .. And if there is anyone on the fence thinking about it, your contemplating it and it feels wrong then you know what you have to do..BUT.. if you both can work it out then that’s even better yet… but to anyone who has someone who treats them really, really good and your happy hold on to it cherish it your one of the lucky!!! 💖💖🤗
GlitzyRitzyMommy 
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❤🤗 thanks chuck 💜
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Really a great post, Nikki!!! Wonderful wisdom!!! So glad you are on the other side of it, Finally!!
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So am I chuck…look its not easy to work full time and get two teenagers to work at all hours of the day and morning before and after work but somehow even under stress this still is soooooo much more peaceful ☺ My kids are very rarely home they both have their own lives there close to driving so pretty soon I will be just going to work and coming home…🤸♀️🎉💃 and FINALLY going to have fun!! I am free of the harsh conditions I lived under Judge and jury .. It’s funny people only see what they want to see they don’t really see what goes on behind behind closed doors… People don’t realise that narcissists have many layers and many Coats and are very deceptive in what they show to family and friends.. At this point in life I can look in the mirror and I can look at God and I can say I gave my all ,my heart and my love, I just couldn’t give anymore of my pride I couldn’t live in fear of every moment there being in issue I was afraid to breathe the wrong way no one knows the anger of some people unless they live it… with that said leaving still was not easy as the mind knows 1 thing but the heart feels another I can honestly say every move I have made I have done with the best intentions and I still have a heart of gold… As I grow older and learn from my past it’s time to live for me Life is too short to live under the reign of someone else I have dreams and I have goals some of which I’ve already met.. I wake every day knowing there are no more asking permissions and there is no more yelling and screaming and chaos and threats..i have my future ahead whatever that may be 💖❤🤗
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I remember those ragged, whirlwinding days!! Yeah, once they get their right to drive you won’t see them as much, for sure!! Honestly, I am in awe of all you do!! I sure know “You Work Hard For The Money!!”.
Makes coming home and having it quiet enough to enjoy Merlot pretty sweet?? Ha! Makes your decisions so sweet and wondering why it took so long to get there??? I know about holding on though!
So happy you are free and having fun and reuniting with old friends – so cool! Yes, Nice to be Queen isn’t it? LOL
You are so right, people can’t even imagine, especially if you are putting up a good front, “acting?” Yeah, the Narc are great actors too. They can definitely put on a good show and gaslight you too.
You can be very proud of the woman that looks back at you in the mirror, Love!! You went way above and beyond what was required. You can look back at the ending and see what a crazy demon you lived with. Beating down ones self esteem and emotional well being is the same a taking a physical beating!! It was a type of pyschological warfare. Yes, and once someone gets angry there is a line where anything can go wrong and violent.
Leaving – Letting Go – is never easy, as you know, even if you know it is the best thing to do. It is never a one way street. It takes two to tango and if the other person is sabotaging you can never win and never heal the relationship. Hold your head high, My Dear! You have a heart of gold and the patience of a Saint having lived through what you did! I’m amazed!!! Truly!!
Glad you have come to the “Old enough to know better” stage of life”. Ha! I still wonder about me sometimes.
Yes, You need to put this quote on a post- it note for your mirror – “Life is Too Short, to be anything but Happy!!”.
Repeat that 3 times in the morning and 3 times before bed and life will get better in a hurry!! You can also add another post-it – “What have you done today to make your dreams come true”!! I love that one too!
I’m so thrilled for You, Nikki!!! So happy you are the Queen of your own life and hope you don’t surrender that any time soon??? Sadly, everyone wears a mask to some degree and it takes quite awhile to know you are making a good bet on another soul!! I’m rooting for rainbows and wishes come for you, BD!!
xoxoxo
Chuck
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Thanks chuck 💜 that means alot as you know along the way we have talked about life and love and where I was then until now has changed 💖 i admit doing this alone and working full time is challenging because I have 2 teens that also work and school and there lives are my job too somedays I find it so very hard to get them to and from work as well as myself BUT yes I make all my own decisions and play by my own rules something I was losing control of…in a relationship there are certain respects you do for each other but you don’t use control and have someone live walking on eggshells or afraid to have things out of place or stress day of chaos as it is with teens..love sometimes isn’t enough and as hard as it is to walk away sometimes its the only way to regain sanity…I mean life is too short to worry all day everyday that you not doing something right and therefore you will be facing stonewalling and Gaslighting and even though your in love your love for yourself has to come first at any cost! I always prayed for changed i loved being married but no matter how hard I wanted it I knew it wouldn’t happen after years and years of trying…thanks for being in my cheering section means alot ❤ xoxo
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Yes, I remember you finally come to the decision to move forward to change and I have always been so happy and proud of you for protecting Yourself and your kids knowing full well the difficulty and struggle that would lie ahead for You. So strong and determined!!! You are paying for your choice but it is your choice and even though it is hard to be the one and only for everything I know it is empowering for you even if it is hard and exhausting!! Bravo, My Dear, Bravo!! It is wonderful to be the Queen, isn’t it?? Making your own rules and not having to live walking on eggshells or being gaslighted and afraid of an explosive demon! You are so right – Life is too short to be anything but happy!
Sometimes when love stops being a two street it is time to love yourself. If both parties aren’t willing to go to counseling and do what it takes you have to accept that it is their decision to not love you! You can’t take the blame or responsibility for them letting love and marriage die! All you can do is cry, dry your tears, let go and walk out the door!! I have no doubt that you will find true love, someone who can’t live without you and love you more than they love themselves – a soulmate!! Congratulations again, Love for being the strong woman it took to do what needed to be done, for yourself and for your children!!
I’m always your supporter and in your cheering section, My Dear!! Always!!
xoxo
Chuck
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That means everything to me chuck 💜 thank you love 💜 it took a lot to go and I am strong and determined 💪 I am a tough italian cookie 🤣 I put up a fight and I fight for whats right and truth…I may not be perfect but my heart is golden …gift or flaw…think its both 💜 I may run into turbulence but I always figure it out and will soar.. No matter man how many mountains I have to climb i will climb them and i always will stand tall with dignity and love… These are not words this is who I am…. Sometimes I wish I could take a lie detector test no one knows what goes on behind closed doors I wish I could take one to show my integrity my respect my love and my dignity who I am what I stand for and the absolute truth!!! Truth is in the eyes of GOD and we all get judged.. Amen that I don’t lie
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What boggles my mind is the energy, passion and the fire re-ignited by someone who has lost some loved one already either at the hands of death or cheating, etc. What brings them back to be able to love and trust again? That soul who keeps on looking for someone and never gets tired of trying is simply mind-blowing for me to comprehend. Where does all that patience, hope and vibes come from? I wonder!
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Amir i cant change the world i can however change the way I approach it! I definitely have trauma and I am taking this time to myself to heal…it will take time…my kids are grown for the most part And are barely ever home They both will be driving in the next few months 🎊🎉 and I’m gonna take that time to finally have some fun🤸♀️💃 I will not let the past define me and I have a beautiful future ahead and am still young enough to live it to the fullest 💖💋
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Then I have a lot to learn from your source of energy and passion. Pls. keep writing such awesome stuff and keep spreading hope like that for people like me and many others. And stay like a glowing example of strength in these times of darkness. Love you 🙂
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Awww amir 💙 thank you love …I am humbled by your beautiful words! I promise to always stay truthful and bright 🌞 and if I touch someone with my words then everything i ever dreamed of in writing has come true! Love ya back 😘
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You’re welcome anytime 😊
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Good Girl, you have come a long way Angel. ❤🌹❤
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Thanks love 💖 with the beautiful love and support from people who where there via phone or email etc…like you jack 😘
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