
Finally seeing a friend I have missed FOREVER…
Last two weeks i have caught up with friends i have known my whole life and have missed for 8 years β€
Here is to a NEW LIFE AND TO THE ME I USE TO BE!! π
Finally seeing a friend I have missed FOREVER…
Last two weeks i have caught up with friends i have known my whole life and have missed for 8 years β€
Here is to a NEW LIFE AND TO THE ME I USE TO BE!! π
I wonder what is it like to be in love and then out of it? Like how does world feel when you are with someone as compared to how you are with yourself? Very intrigued by your new life π
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Love is beautiful when it’s real and gentle β₯ I have always been with someone I had two very long committed relationships and this is only my second time on my own..I think the world is beautiful when you have someone to share it with but its better to be alone when the relationship is painful..my new life is me finding myself and freedom and after covid it will be time to do all the things I ever dreamed of…like salsa dancing going to the Poconos in a long cabin siting by the fire drinking hot cocoa and red wine..this year i get to have my Christmas tree inside that is real and pink, pink lights and pink and silver balls and pink decorations…its liberating to be able to do what you want and not have to ask permission…some relationships are controlling and unhealthy so when your set free the little things you missed mean so much! Just like decorating your apartment the way you want π its so fun to decorate the way it suits you π€πβ€
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I have a very inquisitive mind and feel free to stop me from asking any more questions π My next question is; In a long-term relationship, isn’t the hurdle of “permissions” taken care of first before embarking on it? Or is it with time people change and we aren’t able to keep up with their change?
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Love to answer anything π what happens in the beginning of a relationship never Continues we always stay on our best behaviours in the beginning and the sad fact is after time we really learn who someone is.
And then it’s sad because although you still love someone they become a stranger and sometimes you see the person for who they are not what they showed themselves to be in the beginning… Prince charming or the princess now becomes someone you don’t recognize…people don’t change there actions do π wish u would have known things before I committed..
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Its not just a human but the whole universe changes from one sunrise to another. I was wondering that when in love, do you always want to see your man the same way you met him? Won’t you wish he grew into a better and a stronger individual especially when you have become a part of him? With their changing, why does your love change? Why doesn’t it stay the same way like when it started? It might be a confusing question but I hope you get the gist. Love you π
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As a relationship or a person in a relationship changes .. Changes are okay and normal.. changes mean you grow together …love deepens…the changes that I am talking about are when someone goes from treating you like a princess.. being gentle and kind.. to all of a sudden becoming a control freak.. When they put on the facade to make you fall in love in capture you then turn out to be something else in their true colours show through.. telling you what you can and can’t do.. where and when you can go places and what you can and can’t do with your children with your friends and basic needs of a human being and normal life..when these changes come into affect its not my love that changes its the battle of your mind and will verses your heart..you have to make hard choices of your love for them or your love for yourself…love u back love
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Whenever I hear the word “love” from you, a pleasant feeling along with a smile comes to me π Wish the whole world was like you.
Back to our topic, when two strangers meet, of course they are going to be all nice, lovy mushy, sweet. However, when you start living with someone, things become normal and there are no more formalities. And I think if anyone’s “norm” includes the abuse you mentioned, then of course one is far better alone than being with someone.
Does that mean that the other person was 100% evil? There are people who have many good sides too in addition to their negative ones. Can’t we adjust around their both traits instead of choosing to leave altogether?
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Awww thanks π ππ€ beautiful comment and love the question as I will answer honestly and hope I can explain it correctly π
Yes my only option was to leave the relationship BUT that was after years and years of hoping for change..I didn’t just decide one day hey this isn’t working its over in fact quite the opposite i really loved him and was praying for change π it didn’t happen.
So I left saddly but ultimately its was the right thing for me and anyone in my situation!
And second question no he was not 100 percent evil in fact he had some beautiful qualities too and I am not perfect but no one is.. I believe in owning up to your mistakes I believe in holding accountability and I believe that when you love someone you can better yourself and you can change but you really have to want to change it cannot be partial or one sided …
He wasn’t willing to change and even if he wanted too I don’t think he had the capabilities after all you can’t change people and sometimes we become who we are at a certain losing the abilities to change.. somethings I could have definitely worked with and lived with but some my life would have been to stressful and nerve wracking that I would definitely have had a heartache if I continued because constant stress and worry about someone’s anger and attacks leaves you on constant heightened alertness always hoping to keep things peaceful…it was wearing on me too much and affecting my health..although I am still under stress this stress is mine to deal with and without serious consequences and eggshells I am free to be me and I am free to explore and live make mistakes brush them off and get back up…freedom is a Amazing thing when u felt like a prisoner for so long …
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From your comment I get the feeling of trying multiple individuals until you found right mix that fits you best. But that can never happen for someone unfortunate. Does that mean one will lead a solo life? No one deserves to live and die alone imho. How could people around us be so much messed up that we can’t have normal relationships with them? Or is it our own unique and individual definition of what works best for us? This seems like a never-ending chain of questions but they happen to me since I can’t digest most of the objections, reasons, logics and excuses people give for breaking up with someone from a long-term commitment. This reminds me of a marital vow “In health and sickness” where no matter how sick the other half becomes, one is supposed to stay until the day we die. I think I am talking idealist crap in this complicated world. π
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Since the age of 18 its been 20 years with one and almost 9 with the other when I was a teen there was one that was special as well…as far as marriage yes its true it should last forever unfortunately that is not the world we live in and yes sickness and In health but when your sanity is at stake and its very unhealthy and your health is at stake and your children see total chaos sometimes you make hard choices…I do believe in love and commitment and I am still young to have a beautiful life with someone whom deserves all I have to offer π€
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My questions came to a halt after seeing your last response. Love you always π
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Awwww so glad my honesty gave you the answers you where seeking π hugs and love π
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hugs and love you too π
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oh… and i forgot to say how much I love you and every word that comes out of your awesome-beyond-words soul. π
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Awwww β€ thank you love ya back
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That’s so awesome! I’m glad you’ve been able to see them! It’s always wonderful meeting up with close friends. πππ
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Thank you!! It was amazing over due and absolutely refreshing β€
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You’re very welcome!! π That sounds like it was a ton of fun! It’s really great you got to meet up with them again. π
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I am ready to see them both again! I miss them already π
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Aww, that’s so nice. You must be great friends! π
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Ray and Rob are 2 friends that have known me since I was in high school and loved me then and love me now and the love is mutual π I can’t imagine life without them again β€π€
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I love hearing about friendships like that. They’re so sweet and wholesome. I’m really glad you have such wonderful friends, and they’re once again in your life! β¨π
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Me too thank you! And now I have my word press friends too what a beautiful addition β€ π
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You’re most welcome! π Yes, that’s very true! I’ve met some wonderful people here on WordPress. It really is a community, and a beautiful one, at that! ππ
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I have too and I am so grateful for the friendships that have developed…and all the beautiful writers I have had the pleasure to comment with β€π there is a lot of talent here and alot of heart and passion β€
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Same here! There really are such wonderful, talented people here. Almost all of my interactions here have been very positive, which is a nice feeling. ππ The talent and variety on WordPress is truly tremendous. I’m always finding new blogs to follow and connect with. It’s always great when we can meet and talk with fellow writers, too! πΆ
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I agree! I am so glad I met you β€ your a beautiful writer and person β€
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I’m really glad to have met you, too! You’re one of the wonderful, amazing people I’ve been able to meet through WordPress. I’m very grateful and glad for that! π Thank you so much! You’re a beautiful, talented writer and person as well. ππ
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Thank you beautiful means so much ππ hugs and love to u π€β€
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You’re most welcome! And thank you for your kind words, too. I really appreciate all the kindness and support. The hugs mean a lot, too. ππ Sending lots of hugs and love back!! π
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Amen to that, Love!! So very, very happy for you!! Released from your cage!!! Ha! Reunions are so sweet!!
Let’s see that Happy Face of yours????
xoxo
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Awwww….π I can work on that π€ yes I have had 2 in the past few weeks and it feels AMAZING π€π I saw two people who have known me forever …one from the age of 14 the other 16 and although the meetings where short I am so grateful for the moments I got again with 2 very dear friends whom have always meant the world to me π the memories made and the memories still to come as both will always be in my life from now on!! Thanks chuck π π
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You are so blessed to have so many friends that love you but especially the long time/term friends that you have bonded with through the years!!! Like rediscovering buried treasure??? Hold them tight forever!
xoxo
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They are a treasure thats a fact! I love them very much! They have known me and my heart and my past unlike any other and the connection can never be broken even when someone tried to keep them away because of jealously..I reached out to both of them and they welcomed me with open arms and a where have you been but no worries we still love β€ π I promise to hold them tight forever from this day on!! As they hold me back!! πβ€ I guarantee if I called on them they would come and that feeling is mutual π€π
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So very happy for you, Nikki!!!
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Thanks chuck!!!! π€ as you know what lead up to this because we have spoken on the past i have had …now I am in a better place…β€
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So glad Your future is going to be happy and filled with Joy!! I’m so happy for you, Dearest!
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Thanks chuck π its definitely different and I am able to be me again π€
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Good, So that means we will be seeing the older/better side of you come back to life??? Yeah!
xoxo
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This girl is coming back….watch out world π€£π€£π€£ππ
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Yeah! What I really meant to say was the “Unrepressed You”!! Watch out world, for sure!! LOL!
xoxo
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Thats a fact chuck π hope the world is ready for this princess πΈ β€ π€£π€£
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So good for you lovely πππππ
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Hi sweetheart π how are you? Thank you!! πβ€π
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Im good sweetie busy with work πππbut now im free
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Are you off tomorrow darling ππ
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Yes βΊπ€and you
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Good love ππ€ and tomorrow yes π but storms all day and then I work six days next week 2 11 hrs shifts π
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O wow 6 days .its here not so hot anymore. But thats oke
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It’s hot here…it will be warm here until oct then fall nights happen …I love fall nights although with covid all the festivals won’t happen …I love pumpkin patches and fall festivities π€πβ€
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O my to love the fall .beautiful colors βΊπβ€β€β€
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Agree its one of my favorite seasons π€β€ apple cider donuts and pumpkin coffee and pie π₯§ π and cool crisp nights π
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Yes pie so delicious. And coffee good idea ππ
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Pumpkin coffee is big here at this time of year its yummy π and pies I like pumpkin but blueberry is my favorite π π
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I love coffee with many melk πand i lpve tea
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I love tea too dont drink it much anymore but I use to love green teas with lemon
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Green tea is also good πβ€β€β€β€
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Good for you!! And lemon boasts the antioxidants!! β€β€β€
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Yeah β€πππ with cake
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Yes!!! Or cookies πͺ
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Yes cookies are good to π
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Hugs beautiful π β€
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Hugs to sweetie im going to sleep talk to you soon βΊππβ€
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Night sweetheart π π
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Thank you darking love youππβ€
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Love u too π β€
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Good for you Angel πππ
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Hey darling π thank you!! Ti Amo β€
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