Shedding Some Light On Abuse

Getting a little serious today as to stress it is NEVER okay to feel powerless, degraded, humiliated, or live in fear because of someone else! I speak honestly without giving details of enduring abuse at certain times in my life! Abusers come in all forms as does abuse itself! After enduring abuse i was one of the lucky ones strong enough to recognize what was happening, however, it still has had a serious impact on my physical and emotional wellbeing. Let me stress it has not caused me any forms of depression or psychological disorders which happens to most when they endure years of any form of abuse. For me it caused distrust, fear, reservations, and chest pains as well as doubt in many aspects of my life. I am one of the lucky few whom was able to separate what i had happening to me and who i was as a person! I am very lucky to be able to walk away but as someone once quoted, ALL FORMS OF ABUSE LEAVE BRUISES!
Trust me some bruises are so deep so painful and leave scars that may never heal or if they do they are never forgotten!

Physical abuse is not just the obvious, when you intimidate or make someone feel unsafe in there environment you are physically abusing them. Intimidation i know all too well. It is like being hit! It is scary and you live in constant stress and fear.

Verbal and emotional abuse is degrading. Words are weapons! My personal opinion after living it in childhood and adulthood, words cut deeper and make you bleed more!

Mental abuse comes in many forms such as Insults as well as stalking, jealousy, all of which make you doubt your sanity, second guessing yourself. These fall under gaslighting, trust me it is a horrible way to live!

Financial this is a power trip by your abuser, stripping you of your independence, making you depend on them and you not seeing it happen until it is too late. This type of abuse makes it so you cant leave you fear leaving because you have lost control of your life and yourself. It makes you doubt you will live the same lifestyle or will succeed. You can have a degree be educated but you doubt yourself as the abuser maintains control.

As i end this all i can say is that if you see yourself in any of this get help! You can and will survive! You are strong enough to stop someone from controlling your life! We get one, be happy, get help, move on! You will be okay!!

Author: glitzyritzymommy

Hi my name is nikki my nickname is sparkles. I am a glitzy fun loving mother of three wonderful children and a glammy mom-mom to two beautiful grandbabies. My life and heart are full! My daddy is still my world! My education is a certified medical assistant and i love the color pink my favorite holidays are halloween, 4th of july, christmas. I love God and life! These are the hardest years and the best years i just want to live life to the fullest! :)

61 thoughts on “Shedding Some Light On Abuse”

    1. I Love it so much more when You say it!! It’s more exciting and I hope it entices and tempts you into wanting to do More?? Please!!! What you did and started left me breathless, since I know the back story, it was even more awesome!!!!
      dal profondo del mio cuore ti ringrazio e ti adoro
      baci baci – Tesoro! πŸ˜˜πŸ’‹πŸ’–

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    2. Babe, I Love your kinda silly!!! Mmmmm! Ohhh, another start!! Are you Merloting or just blitzed from work? I hope you are ok, at home??? You don’t tell me stories anymore!!! I know what you mean, going Stir Crazy too!! I will put this on the drawing board!! Too sweet Poetess Extraordinaire!!!
      cosa posso dire che il mio cuore non ha giΓ  confessato? Amati
      Kisses πŸ˜˜πŸ˜˜πŸ’–πŸŒΉ

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      1. Lmao just started merloting but all this crazy in my life and the world has me questioning my sanity 🀣🀣🀣 need to release the stress with words so therefore love sending you some silliness…need play time 😘

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    3. Tesoro – I Love play time and silly too! A great incubator for words, ideas, titles – N & N??? Any particular game????
      Fai attenzione a ciΓ² che scegli: amore
      teneri baci baci πŸ’‹πŸ’‹πŸ’–πŸ˜˜πŸŒΉ

      Lmao just started merloting but all this crazy in my life and the world has me questioning my sanity 🀣🀣🀣 need to release the stress with words so therefore love sending you some silliness…need play time 😘

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    4. So agree – No War! I love play too, too much fun!! Chutes and Ladders? What do you have against – sliding??
      Slip and slide?? Poker??? Ha! Climbing ladders to the top?? You wouldn’t be just a little bit competitive, would you??? Ha Paintball? NO, that’s war – sorry! Ok, Dodgeball? What’s that hand slapping game? I’m good at that – Fast Hands!! Oh yeah – Red hot – what your hands might look like after playing with me???? Full disclosure!
      Ha! baci baci πŸ˜˜πŸ˜˜πŸ’–

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    5. Well, Ha! I thought I had the answer dead on – until you said you played it with your Daddy!! Shucks! So was that a two part answer? Your favorite game? and then the one with your Dad? Ha, when you said your “Favorite Game” it was easy, nanosecond match up with your favorite thing, of course!! A delightfully fun game, to be sure!!! πŸ’‹πŸ’‹πŸ˜˜ Mmmmmm! HEY, I know You!! can’t hide!! Remember, I keep a journal! LOL!

      Mastermind?? Know it well. Was/am very good at it, actually, shouldn’t be tooting my own horn – logic is something I love – I play chess?? So, what games did you play with others?? Ohh, I loved to play Boggle, great word game. Cards – hearts!
      Well, let’s keep that Silly Girl who loves Merlot and feels cooped up sending me more lines??? Love it!
      Ti adoro, Ti amo baci
      πŸ’–πŸ’‹πŸ˜˜

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      1. Remember all those games…I always loved mastermind first…but loved the game life and candyland and chutes and ladders and i loved anything with barbies…go figure 🀣🀣🀣
        Use to play chess with my dad too ❀
        Will definitely send more lines and get to emails shortly πŸ₯°πŸ€—❀

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    6. Oh, heck yes. That was one of the favorite things to do. Clue? I was good at that too, logic! Sorry! Parchessi?
      I had a preference for Mastermind too, but it didn’t take long and no one wanted to play when they knew they weren’t going to win. Ha! Yes, loved all the games you mentioned, well except Barbie’s.
      Funny you mention Barbie. I had a Law School classmate that related the truth about relationships between men and women – he said, Men don’t stand a chance in a relationship with women. I was surprised and asked why? He laughed and said, “when guys are growing up they are out playing baseball, football and games etc. and girls? They are home playing Barbie with Ken. They are playing house and its Ken go out and do this, Ken do that, Ken, I want a new car, a new house. Oh, Ken we are going to have the biggest wedding!!”
      It’s like he slapped me in the face and I said, OMG, you’re right – men don’t stand a chance. Girls have be rehearsing life since they were 5 yr old!! LOL No barbies. He was, Way Right! LOL! Sorry for the on and on and on!!
      So did you beat your Dad at chess? Not a favorite game? Pawn to Queen 4!

      CAN’T wait for new lines!!! Yum. Let me know what you think!
      Ti adoro, occhi d’angelo
      πŸŒΉπŸŒΉπŸ˜˜πŸ’–πŸ˜˜

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      1. Barbie and ken..🀣🀣🀣🀣 one other thing barbie had to teach ken..woman teach men…oh crap again G rated 🀣🀣🀣🀣
        Omg I love clue completely forgot that one
        And no dont recall beating my dad now I have to ask him lol
        🀣😘❀

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    7. Oh, My! The sisterhood Gestapo are going to be after you for spilling secrets!!! Hey, gm is unrated, finish it there, Little Lady (my John Wayne imitation)!!!! 😁😁 Guess men aren’t such great “learners”??
      Clue is great, how about whiffleball baseball? didn’t answer about dodgeball. How about 4 square?
      I’m sure Daddy let you win at least a couple of times to keep you coming back? Ask?
      You’re too much damn fun!!
      Ti Amo Mon Tresor
      πŸ˜˜πŸ’–πŸ’‹

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    8. Thanks for the answers – left Final of “HIS MIDNIGHT PRAYERS” on GM in case you wanted to post tonight. Didn’t know if you had something already scheduled – Now you have choices. Let me know when you want to post and I will post the day after!
      Floating!
      baci baci πŸ˜˜πŸ’‹
      Ti Amo B.D. πŸ’•πŸ’•πŸ’–

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      1. My pleasure Nikki!! Always love sharing your posts with followers!!! Was a little worried about not seeing you on WP or email?? Hope you are having a wonderful day!!! Please be careful out there, Tesoro – NJ is up over 92,000+ My thoughts and prayers are with You, Nikki!! see gm
        Ti Amo Mon Tresor
        baci baci πŸ’–πŸ’‹πŸ˜ŠπŸŒΉ

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      2. Sorry to hear about WP. They have messed me up in the past too! No fun! Your emails too? I was wondering about that because I sent you a Vegas email without hearing back?? Ha!
        Hope your day is going great, B.D.!!! M.Y.
        Ti Amo Tesoro
        baci baci πŸ˜˜πŸ’–πŸ’‹πŸŒΉ

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      3. Wow! I’m so glad I didn’t send this to you yet!!! Hey, I can shift gears on the fly and the title still works too! Yummmm! I have to go work on that now while your words are still toasty hot!! The perfect ending!!! Mmmmmm!! Got it done – see gm in a few minutes! I hope you love it!!
        Dio, adoro il tuo cuore e la tua anima !!
        sciami di baci di farfalle per te
        xoxoxo πŸ’–πŸ’‹πŸ’‹πŸ˜˜πŸŒΉ

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      4. Awwww….kisses stored tucked away to be released on a rainy day when one wishes the sun would shine it is then her love will be felt inside and out…warming him πŸ’‹πŸ’‹ i think the coronavirus entrapment and my circumstances are making me silly 🀣🀣🀣

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  1. Summerhillane wow that’s crazy beautiful minds think alike πŸ˜‰ I love you back! 😘 look forward to reading your take on this serious subject…may our words reach everyone out there in need of our voices…kisses πŸ’œπŸ˜˜

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  2. OMG Nikki!!! This is so Raw and Powerful!! God, You are Awesome when you get up on a soapbox, Girl!! Well, really all the time but especially on a soapbox!! I Love seeing you bloom and blossom and listening to Your inner voice starting to Roar thrills me!!! You are a diamond starting to Sparkle and Shine!! Absolutely Amazing – just like the Author!! Bellissimo, Love, Bellissimo!!!
    amare l’anima che mi lascia senza fiato
    Ti Amo Mon Tresor πŸ’–πŸ’‹πŸ˜ŠπŸŒΉ

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      1. This was so Awesome! It will help so many others who will see there is a way out!! Repetitious I know, (forgive me) but reading this may me so Damn Proud to know You!!!
        ti amerΓ² sempre e per l’infinito πŸ’–πŸ’–πŸ˜˜πŸŒΉ
        baci baci – Love πŸ’‹πŸ’‹πŸŒΉ
        I think you may be a little familiar with
        this experience from Jennifer Nettles
        Sugar!!!

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      2. Yes, oh please yes, let’s Write!!! Did that inspire you?? I thought it was a good portrayal of high school and college!! Ha! I like that as a title – “Ferris Wheels and Cotton Candy Dreams” or “17 Year Old Dreams/Dreaming”!!
        Checked what was sent to you last night and found some important things weren’t properly delivered. Will have it sent a little later – gm!
        Be careful out there, Babe, NJ = 89,000 today!! Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers!!!!
        baci baci – πŸ’‹πŸ˜˜πŸ’–

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      3. Need all the prayers and love and support darling!
        You always inspire me we say one word to each other and the other has a thought and there we go…off to the races 🀣🀣🀣🀣πŸ₯°β€πŸ˜˜

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      4. Nikki, You know I’ve got a steady stream of prayers headed to heaven – marked For Nikki!! I’ve heard rumors they may limit me? I will appeal.
        Yes, that is such a rush when that happens isn’t it?? It sure is for me!! It’s really Magic Nikki, I love it so much – that mysterious connection – like ESP, awesome!! I Love the Races!!!!
        Please take the pieces we have in waiting and put a priority posting number on the title in the order you think you want to post and let’s post them?? You don’t know what a joy it is to know I can inspire – You?? You already know how easy it is for You and your words to touch me!!! Magical, simple magic!! Mmmm
        Ti Amo Angel Eyes
        baci baci πŸ’‹πŸ’–πŸ˜ŠπŸŒΉ

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      5. Whispers softly spoken that touched his heart, while he laid his head down in night, upon the feathers in his pillow.. in the deepest trance talking to God for her.. In his dark room after midnight..pleading to keep her safe..for this angel he adored could not be erased from every thought in his being…for he loved her….
        Ahhh just a quick fun thought…had to have some fun πŸ€£πŸ€£πŸ€£πŸ€£πŸ€£πŸ’‹πŸ’‹πŸ’‹πŸ’‹πŸ’‹

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      6. OMG! Wonderful!! I will start work on this right away!! You are a Wizard Muse!!! I see you have learned to love melting me, haven’t You??? Grazie per quella cara. Mi hai portato gioia nel cuore!!!
        I will do you proud – promise!!
        Ti Amo – My Poetess Extraordinaire
        baci baci πŸ˜˜πŸ’–πŸ’‹πŸŒΉ

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      7. Well, Tesoro!! It seems the Race is over!! The Nikki Flow worked it’s magic again!! So Loved you sharing about this!!! It melted my heart!!! You read hearts and eyes so perfectly!!
        I hope you will love it – HIS MIDNIGHT PRAYERS! Would you like to see? Let me know!! gm
        Ti amo e adoro te e le tue parole, mio ​​dolce angelo
        baci baci πŸ’‹πŸ’–πŸ˜˜πŸŒΉ

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      8. His midnight prayers before he sleeps are of her underneath his bed sheets..drifting from prayer to fantasy praying to God for this blissful ecstasy of the love of that one woman he dreams of every night..

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      9. Ha! You do know how to tease me!! Ok, I will send over what I hope is a really tasty treat you will love. I think when words flow it’s because you melted me! LOL!
        Ti Amo – Sweet Princess
        baci baci πŸ’–πŸ’‹πŸ˜˜πŸŒΉ

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  3. We must be on the same wavelength, because today I wanted to come out and talk about emotional, mental, physical and spiritual abuse. A very dark and deep subject that needs light shined on it. Your light is shining bright. I love you and thank you for sharing ❀️

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  4. Without some in my life giving me strength yes the strength was still there was still present but having someone back you support you and care about your wellbeing is everything! It makes you that much stronger! There are some friends I could not live without and every day am thankful for there love and the fact they just lend a ear!! Sparkly pink rainbows ahead for sure possibly a leprechaun too 🀣🀣
    Thank you for the beautiful comment! β€πŸ’œ

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  5. This is really well put together Nikki. I hope u r getting stronger every day as u deal with ur demons. Ur friends will help guide u through these troubled timesπŸ’“U r so very lucky u didnt become depressed. U r a wonderful strong lady. One step at a time my dear and the finish line will be waiting for u. I want nothing more for u then to get to ur sparkly pink πŸŒˆπŸ’ž

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