It has taken me awhile to share a very deep, dark, sinister thing that started about 13 years ago to me. I wont share specifics such as names or certain circumstances because of police involvement, but i want to shed some light on how cyberstalking changed my life! I hope by my experience i can help someone else out there avoid the painful things that happened to me when i put my trust in someone whom i was very close with. This person was a very big part of my life and whom i considered would be forever. My point of this story is you can never really know someone or know someones true intentions always trust your gut, i wish i would have! There where red flags and i ignored them. Your gut is your best friend if something feels or seems wrong it mostly likely is! I want to point out, this did not break me nor change me it actually made me stronger and not as trusting. I realize that the world can be cruel and evil even when it is someone who is closest to you! I have also learned while being on this blog that the world while it may be cruel there is also a very big world out there full of loving, interesting people in the USA and abroad. I must say that the people abroad are quite lovely and i am so glad to be chatting with people all over the world! The world is a beautiful place i will not let one evil person change that perspective! xoxo
About 13 years ago i met someone whom i trusted i thought very highly of them and there intelligence and career. I never knew that this trust would cost me years of stress and grief. We talked everyday we where together most days of the week, we knew each other beyond words. One day i needed my phone charged and i had left my charger at home, that was the moment my life changed! This person charged my phone for me in his office by his computer i didnt think anything off it. Why would i this was a person i trusted! Boy was i in for a surprise!
Shortly after i started to realize all my emails my banking my social media accounts everything was not working properly. My phone was burning up, my battery would drain after two hours after a night of charging and that was minor compared to what happened after.
I started to notice on my social media pictures being erased comments that men would make deleted, inboxes people would ask me if i got but never did, people getting responses i did not send. Guy friends whom i respected and adored getting calls from my email in the middle of the night waking there wives causing trouble thinking it was me and i had no idea how or why this was happening but i lost friends. Friends i adored, friends i would never hurt. My Banking would show log ins as well as all my accounts at times i knew i did not log in. My phone would echo calls would drop, i would watch pictures in texts be erased in front of my eyes and sent to unknown senders which i was not sending. I switched phones accounts phone numbers i clouds iphone to androids. No matter what i did even adding security to prevent malaware did not help. There is alot you can do with having someones social, address, access to accounts and being a having millions of dollars etc…Thats when i went to him when i would catch him putting codes into my phone without permission. Noticed things, he would make comments about in regards to texts and emails and things on my social media. He would know things him and i did not discuss conversations i had with others via texts etc in private. I was not the only person he was doing this too i witnessed him doing it to others. When i approached him he threatened me it would be the last thing i did if i told anyone.
Then it really started men calling my phone whom i didnt know, emails from men that where vulgar, texts to my kids, calls to my kids that where vulgar, all my kids had there emails, social media accounts hacked. Again he had all there information as well. After years of relentless hacking i went to the police, i cant say much but i can say 85 percent of things have stopped. I still get log ins in emails that are not me, my phone gets hot on a rare occasion, he has had a man approach me in a supermarket thinking i am not aware of what is transpiring. My phone tells me at least twice a week that my email is trying to fetch my voicemail however that is not me trying to retrieve it. Image pictures that you send to your spouse, significant other, being taken something so intimate just for someone special being taken without your knowledge and permission. I can tell you how it feels, it makes you feel like throwing up. Knowing every conversation, email, someone was reading without you knowing how intrusive and compulsing! I dealt with this for 13 years. It leaves you not trusting, worried that your always being invaded. Not having emails on your phone not having facebook or instagram because of past experiences. Creating new emails for friends hoping he never finds it, worried when someone does not respond right away that he got to it again first. However, i will not let this ruin my life, there is police involved now so when i see any of the above happen i note and talk to the proper police authorities. If things keep happening even subtle things there will be charges. This is my life and i will live it and i hope noone out there ever goes though what i have!
My advice to anyone out there be careful who you trust, not everyone is kind and thats sad however do not let fear stop you from meeting, loving and engaging with anyone whom you find special. When someone makes your day dont let anyone take that away. Friendship, love and attraction are all beautiful things when your lucky to find them, hold on tight and enjoy it and do not let someone or something go that makes you happy!! Some people you meet once in a lifetime! ๐ xoxo
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MY THANKS FOR HER HONESTY AND LEARNING WISE WAYS!
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Wow i am honored ๐ ๐
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your blog is EXCEPTIONAL~! โค
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I am grateful and honored by this wow I am speechless ๐๐๐โค
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JUST A FORMER TEACHER..EXPRESSING HIS OPINION
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Where are you from? USA or abroad? ๐
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I HAIL FROM THE U.S. OF A…..MY WIFE AND I ARE BOTH DISABLED AND LIVE IN MASSACHUSETTS. IN FEDERALLY FUNDED HOUSING.
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We are practically neighbors i am from south jersey howdy neighbor ๐๐ sorry to hear about you both sending prayers love and hugs โค you are a very beautiful man ๐
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WELL…disability is like anything else—a possibility in life. Have you REALLY SEEN my thumbnail???? ๐ Been through New Jersey…!
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Wow will have to take a look ๐ and yes life is full of surprises God knows I have had mine may blow your mind lol may have to share with you some time ๐
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I hear you…and remember…I’m spoken for…31 years in June! (June 3rd). Look, but…! ๐ But–share away!
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Lol congrats promise no heart stealing ๐คฃ๐คฃ๐คฃ๐คฃ sharing thats one thing I can do! ๐๐
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And I can share…with you! ๐
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That is bad. Really bad. How brave you are. Pray that even the remnants of the experience disappear.
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Been 13 years slowly I may have found peace..it was hell and thank you noone should ever be violated this way..never knew someone whom cared so much about me or claim too would hurt me in such a way..but evil has no heart! And thank you!! ๐
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Yes it is heartless. But you didn’t deserve it. You are just so full of a kind heart. Will pray for you๐งก๐งก
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Wow! Thank you so very much!! ๐ And I love prayers so for that I thank you again!! And I will return the favor ๐โค
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I agree and I did try for many years this was someone I was very close with and cared for deeply I never would have hurt him or anyone else the way he has hurt me and others..I still wish him no harm because if I did he would be in a not so great place in his life this would have backfired and hurt him more then it ever hurt me…forgiveness is something that is hard to achieve after all the devastation if he would finally leave me alone I could try to work on forgiveness towards him..
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Omg girl ๐ I am terribly sorry u experienced anything like that. What an invasion of privacy. U r a strong willed individual to get through that. Something like that would literally just break me apart๐ป
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Thank you for the kindness and comforting words! That means a lot! It has been a long hard road and he still messes with my emails he had messed with my blog recently too. I keep track and report it he is creating a mess now for himself. Also he made charges to a credit card recently. I have given him years to back off some people think they are invincible when they are wealthy. And although it has caused great stress he will be the one defeated as I hold my head up high he cant break me! Xoxo โค
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That’s the spirit girl๐ Stand as tall as u can no matter what…keep a poker face….be kind and break down if u must but never in front of the enemy. I know it sounds easier than it is to do but keeping self respect is important for u. U owe it to urself to be that way. If u ever need to vent believe me I understand๐ป
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That you for the encouraging words I am truly touched!! I hold my head high because he has further to fall each thing he continues you do digs himself a bigger grave not me! I would never have the evil soul he does as I wouldn’t hurt people! I cant comprehend this kind of evil! It’s sad someone wastes the time to inflict pain on someone when in the end they are only destroying themselves ๐โค๐๐
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Yes if only they could turn that evil energy into a positive one
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Your true story – all that youโve experienced – is so disturbing … knowing that it actually happened. And, continues. I canโt imagine how unsettling to your life this has been. Beyond words how social predators prey on innocent people.
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It has been a very long hard road you never fully trust again. This was someone I really trusted a very close person to me . I never knew he would hurt me that way! It has made me leery and not as trusting however with that said I still believe in a good people are out there and kindness always wins!
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Kindness rules just like Love beats Hate โฆ Good over Evil โฆ God has you covered. Always a lesson to be learned on the side of caution.
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Wow beautifully put! Yes without God I would have not held things together. It’s been hard esp when life is hard enough. God is the reason I am still a fighter!
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I trust God with everything. I donโt always get it right. How can we? Weโre mortal, weak, broken, tempted โฆ good things, too. God pulls us together. We can handle everything in His Grace ๐
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You touch my heart! I believe in everything you said, and God does bring people together its trusting in fate! I will never fight fate! I will always trust in God! And with beautiful people like you it helps me trust there is more good people then bad…bad may taint the heart but my heart is full of love and open to others who are genuine โค
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Blessed, we are. Thank you. I spent a fair amount of time in life trying to ignore God … I was losing the battle … Finally, accepting the Epiphanies as His Truth before me, I accepted Him. No accident. I believe in Fate as True Destiny. Our True Purpose in Him. I wrote a piece called Confessions of Hypo-Christian which may better explain things.
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Wow! I’d love to read it! You are very intriguing and I love your honesty and the beautiful expressions of your words! Your beautiful!
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If you read deeper into my blog youโll see postings about a variety of life occurrences from spirituality to cryptic and raw accounts of experiences Iโve had. Not all are good or have happy endings. Faith and Humor โ the ability to laugh at myself โ are two constants โฆ Thank you for your kind words. Humbled, thank you
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We all have a story and that makes us human! I dont look at someone’s mistakes I look at there now. We all have dark clouds we have ran away from, its the sunlight in someone’s heart and the beauty of there soul I am drawn too! And truly ment it your beautiful!
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Itโs the openness and trust to reveal oneโs self without fear of judgment or ridicule, which brings Souls in alignment. We naturally want to be in the good company of others. Weโre born of Love not darkness. We seek Light, Fellowship. Sometimes, we do get distracted by things we shouldnโt but thatโs okay โฆ Finding our way back us also part of the Journey.
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The person who did this to me was once a Christian who fell into darkness he admitted his faith was gone! He was so evil and hid it for so long I didn’t see it. We fought over faith all the time as he ridicule me for my love of God. I never backed down I am a fighter! However, the things he did to me where unspeakable and I could have hurt him back but I knew I am not evil my heart is good! He has to face good for the evil I am leaving it to God! You have brought a light and sparkle to my day! Your a magic man Micheal!
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What a shame. For him. I donโt completely understand the fallen โ those tempted by evil to prey on others. Perhaps, there was undiagnosed or untreated mental health issues that contributed to his actions. You didnโt deserve this. I imagine he hated women โฆ just my impression โฆ and himself. Vengeance is ugly. I know thatโs not your character. Forgiveness โ though always difficult because of hurt โ I believe is the Truest Realm of Love.
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It’s a long painful story! Maybe I can email you the truths at some point its something that has caused a lot of pain in my life. My life has had some serious difficulties this was one. And I agree with you on all stated above I knew him the real him but it was hidden behind a mask until I couldnt really see what was happening until it was too late.
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If youโre comfortable sharing, Iโd like to read about it. I find sharing is one if the best ways to exorcise the pain. We all go through pain, hurt and loss. I believe as I have witnessed, God doesnโt give us more than we can handle. You can reach me at gdpten@gmail.com anytime.
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Will do! Thank you! Thank you for making my day!! You have for the last two days brought sunshine to my heart!
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Youโre welcome. Itโs what we do … keep our mindโs clear and heart open. All is possible. Life is good even when it isnโt.
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I want you to know you are very refreshing! Your light and words are beautiful, melting my heart! Making me smile on this dismal day in jersey, letting sunlight into my soul! xoxo
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Itโs mutual, Nikki. Keep your heart open and head looking up. Answers come without asking. Jersey sounds like Toronto today.
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Thank you! I think you may be right! The future is uncertain however it seems brighter when beautiful people enter your life!
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I follow the 7 Spiritual Laws Of Life. Keeping your Spirit Open to possibilities – Laws of Karma, Pure Potentiality, etc.
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They opened up a lot more this morning! Blinded by that beautiful light bestowed upon me today! I sent that email ๐
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๐๐ Check your inbox as I responded
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Whenever itโs convenient send a test email. I make sure it doesnโt end up in a Junk inbox.
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Will do!
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That’s so awful… To have to endure they for so long is terrible. What is wrong with some people?
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Obsessed, control issues, evil heart
I dont know I couldnt hurt anyone!! I have too big of a heart for my own good …unfortunately!
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I think you doโฆ ๐
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I seriously do i say it’s my biggest flaw ๐but thanks for noticing my big heart ๐
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I couldnโt help but see it ๐
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Thatโs super scary. Iโm sorry you had to go through something like that and thankfully, you came out of it ok.
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Aww thanks it made me a stronger person also maybe less naive that all people are kind. Sad but true! Learn and live but never forget that as many bad people In there world that there is there are twice as many great loving people who are kind and have a heart!
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