Sometimes us parents get lost in all the chaos of our kids needs and necessities that we lose track of our own! Well,this is a normal response of having kids sometimes it leaves us lost and longing to switch the switch and remember what makes us tick! My kids have ALWAYS been my top priority and will continue to be, however, I also like many of you have desires and passions and things I see as enjoyment that just can’t and don’t happen anymore! Us parents run ourselves into the ground trying to do and be everything to our children and while that is expected and has to be, we also have a obligation to ourselves to live as well. If your like me finding that time is far and few between, I have been told I just need to make it happen! So after a highly chaotic day yesterday and another today that has me running from 5 am until bed I am taking 30 minutes this morning to myself! Amen!
Last night I woke up with chest pains from all the stress I have been under for a very long time. Being in medical made me quite aware that although I was not having a heart attack if I keep running myself like this and also keep dealing with other circumstances that are causing me tremendous pressure someday these chest pains may become something more serious! So i woke this morning and said I am taking 30 minutes and if that’s all I get today then so be it, but at least I have that! It is pretty bad when you record a movie that you wanted to see and over 3 days you watched maybe 40 minutes of it pausing it to run your kids everywhere and trying to work and do all the other things you are obligated to do. You parents know how it is there is never a second of keeping up with it all. I feel I am always behind, now I am learning to accept it! It is pretty bad when you wake up at 5 am to do laundry and dishes and know that at 10 pm you will be doing the same thing! Moms and dads out there how do we do it and keep our sanity? Here is my solution!
It is a cool rainy morning and I stopped at the coffee shop, nothing like looking out at the rain and smelling fresh brewed coffee while watching people and cars pass by. Ahhhhhh..relief. Then I took a piece of paper and wrote all the things I enjoy, miss, and love to do. So i will let you in on my secret pleasures and distractions and hope you take my advice and write yours down too. You can share it or keep it to yourself but at least you know that you are entitled to enjoy life as well! So here is my list! 😉
Coffee shops, Book stores, Writing my blog and writing poetry, snuggling by a fire, watching lifetime movies and reality tv, walking by the ocean at night, walking under the city lights at night, sitting in the park, still WANT to learn to Salsa dance, playing with my grandkids and being with my kids and my dad. Pumpkin patches, and hay rides, picking apples, Talking to my sisters, meeting a friend for lunch, trying new foods and restaurants, fine red wine, would love to visit a wine tasting tour, cooking new foods, playing and dancing in the kitchen while I cook, kissing passionately, hugging, I want to teach myself Italian as my grandmother is from Italy. This is a brief list but I smile everytime I look at it, and for me I intend on making it a priority! This is what I like and who I am, how about you? What makes you tick? Ask yourself, write it down and then go for it! That’s my new motto, Go for it!!! Xoxo