Whoever stated the term age is just a number was a 100 percent accurate. We know 40 as the so called dreaded , “MIDDLE AGE”. The midlife crisis years, yes, i once at 39 cried knowing i was turning the dreaded 40, however, the 40’s have been good to me. Sure, i have the normal everyday maladies that each one of us in the human race have however, there is a certain aura that differs in your middle years that helps to change who you are and what you see as important. Sure, these years we may see our first gray hairs, maybe some of us see a wrinkle or two, then there are the lovely mammograms and colonoscopies,, ” Oh what a delight!” It also means we are half way in the grave, half way to 80, oh my did i just say that? 🙂 But brush it off, 40 is FABULOUS!!!!
As i see it and some may beg to differ, i see confidence, security, we know what we will tolerate, who we are, and what we will not tolerate. We stand proud of beliefs and stand firm. We do not feel the need to impress anyone including but not limited to family, friends, and better yet men! We spent our 20’s trying to impress the world, some of us focused on families, careers and trying to maintain our youth and grow up at the same time. Our 30’s we married possibly divorced and remarried. We started to learn our mistakes and not repeat them, raised our kids and hung onto the years we regretted not making certain moves or trying something new, or settling because we thought we had too. But hang on if your not there or you are 40, one bit of advice hang on and enjoy the ride 40 something is a adventure embrace it, love it, learn from it. 40 is fun, Fantabulous, flirty, and unforgettable!!
In these years your self esteem is at all time high! Your probably settled in your career and if your not go get it, i am learning its never to late. It is only too late when we die!! At this age we pick our friends forget about facebook, social media, aka how many likes, how many friend requests, at this age we pick are friends and hold them close, we also find the ones we let slip away. We learn what matters, and are aware time is precious and not given. We do not waste time on nonsense, and people who are not worth it. We also learn what truly matters and what is superficial and not worth holding onto. Let me provide a example. My family and close friends know this story. Here it goes.
When i was 17 years old i was a senior in high school. I was picked by a modeling agency in NY to model swimsuits. I was flabbergasted, delighted, insanely excited about the possibilities this door would open into. Sadly, my mother cut this dream off before i had a chance to explore them. POOF my dreams went down the toilet, i held this against her pretty much until now. And i even still sort of still do, she did not let me pursue who i was and what i was meant to do, however , although with much arguing from my father in my corner she did not budge, If you knew my mother you would understand. After she did this i settled for one trip of modeling in a mall fashion show, did a modeling video, and became a short lived hooters girl, and then said screw it. But that does not matter now i realize at 40 yes, although some dreams some things get screwed up we are who we are and no one and nothing can stop us if we want something. My point is at 17 and even up until now modeling, and looks while important are superficial, at 40 we are established, secure, confident, and even if we cant wear that tiny bikini anymore, we turn just as many heads, if not a whole lot and did i say ALOT more heads when we enter a room not because our midriff is out but because our beauty is in our face, our demeanor, our confidence, our sexuality, and knowledge and experience, our younger counter parts wish like we once did that they rocked the confidence that being in your 40’s means!! I never felt so beautiful then i do now, and i am sure you 40 somethings agree, these are the best years enjoy them, embrace them!! BECAUSE…..
ROCK IT 40 IS FANTABULOUS!!! 😉